"Our language has wisely sensed the two sides of being alone. It has created the word loneliness to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word solitude to express the glory of being alone." - Paul Tillich.
That's how it works, trolled for life :P No marriages are not that bad but everything has it's good, bad & ugly. How do u know that the person you just met is the "one" actually we don't. we don't even know whether the person we are with right now is the one or not. It's about settling down whether it's X or Y.
But what if one does not want to? It should be a choice finding the right idiot is a task. Not every guy in the world is comfortable with the Feminist side. We say we are evolved or our society is or men have changed, actually not it's barely 1% that have adapted to the changes.
Cooking is still what is expected of a Woman and Earning is what is still expected from a Man. The roles are so pre-decided that it's like a conditioning from years. And someone who tries to break-free of this pattern may appear as mad or weird. When i saw my closed ones or friends settling down it hit me, but than you don't want to end up doing something that the world feels is right and not you.
It's not about that it is time to, and it's not about because everyone else is but it should be because you want to. Get married change your name leave everything behind, your carrier, your identity but what does that lead a girl to?
Will a guy be happy if a girl does not want to hyphenate or stick to the identity that she is been holding since she was a kid? It's about companionship finding the right mix, finding a Man who would accept the strong opinionated feminist bitch for what she is, don't marry because you don't want to be left alone, or for those so called man-chores.
Sometimes being your own hero is by choice and not by situation :)
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.